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Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends?

The best answer I can give to ‘Why do boyfriends abuse their girlfriends?’ is: because they don’t know any better. If she has been or is being verbally, emotionally and physically abused by her boyfriend, here’s what she needs to know to turn her situation around now…

All the reasons why boyfriends abuse their girlfriends point to the same conclusion. Boyfriends abuse their girlfriends verbally, emotionally, or physically because they are unaware that their behavior is hurting someone. If they have a conscience, they just don’t care enough about their girlfriends to stop hurting them. This is not normal. My experience is that most men are extremely decent, loving, and caring people who have strong desires to protect and love the people they care about, especially the women in their lives.

If you are in a relationship where your boyfriend is abusing you, I recommend that you give yourself the opportunity to widen your social circle and meet men from different walks of life. To do this, spend time in a completely different place. Go to a NICE place you’ve never been before. Dress as neatly as you can and watch how other men behave around the women they are with. Do your own experiment by observing at least 10 different men. Keep a notebook and record your observations about the way they dress and behave, especially around women or their girlfriends. If a man comes and talks to you, smile demurely and let him talk. If he abuses you in any way or makes you feel uncomfortable, walk away from him. There is no need to retaliate and abuse him. Just walk away or yell for help. Do something different.

In life, it is so important that we do not keep doing the same thing expecting a different result. Think about it: if you want to color a sun yellow, but keep using the same red crayon over and over again, how are you going to achieve the result you want? The only chance you have to color your Sun yellow is to use a different crayon, even if you don’t know what other crayons you have yet. Yes, you may end up with a lot of different colored suns on your paper, but at least you used all the crayons you had, rather than sticking with something that has already proven to be unsuitable for your needs.

So what I’m saying is: if you want a boyfriend who treats you with care, consideration and affection, choose a different boyfriend. Don’t stay with a boyfriend who has already proven incapable of behaving consistently with verbal, physical, and emotional decency and caring. Men don’t really change that much. And it’s not your job to hang around and see if a guy ever changes. It’s your job to take good care of yourself. Once your abusive boyfriend has proven to you that he’s a “red crayon,” he’s not what you’re looking for. Muster up all the courage and self-respect he can and start a new and better journey instead. Ask other people for their help and support. Give yourself the gift of opening yourself to better possibilities. Learn from your mistakes so that you can choose your boyfriend more carefully and wisely in the future.

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